Regrettably I dint take photos of Friday's dinner at Aunt Adorna's place. It's nice to have supportive extended family.
My family sat down yesterday to discuss the issues that we are facing currently and we proposed our plans to keep everything going as we brave the storms. Well, I'm rarely open with my family issues here but this time I'm going to say a little just so that you can understand what we, as a family, are going through; and what my Hus is doing for us and has done for us so far.
My family is in another financial crisis. It's not new, but this time my folks' flat will be re-possessed if not dealt with soon enough. It's not like this is the first time that the housing loans are not serviced, but HDB has changed a little, they will do what we deserved. According to my mum, HDB used to be "kinder" because it's should be
socially-responsible. I dun blame the change; I'm aware that the people have been abusing the government's generosity.
The problem is up-sized with my parents' souring marriage. Both are blaming each other for landing the family in this state. They are also trying to "buy" us into their stories to blame the other party. In all honesty, I think both of them are the cause of this, how can 1 be apart of another? The blame game has made the situation more stressful for everyone who's listening and involved. Well, I'm naturally the top choice of everyone's listening ears. Cos I'm person who really listens and I just do that. I dun usually say things to rebuke, I listen, digest and then after a day or two feedback in my proper sentences with
politeness. My mind for human processing is slower than most pple and I have something about courtesy that is causing huge delay. Ah hahaha. I hate myself for this sometimes. My
Hus will then be my "listening ear" during this... He's one poor little boy, I chose him to listen because nobody can listen and discern quite as well as him in this situation.
This problem is tacky; everyone is living in red alert. Everyone feels ready to burst whenever somebody steps on their toes. Even Hus & I,
usually super polite and nice to each other, occasionally raised our voices now. You can imagine the stress level at home and the facade we put on during work or school. And who can we confide in when we're in office and haven slept well the whole night having multiple solutions going through our minds for many nights since 3-4 months ago?
Our decided best move now is to rent out my folks' house after much considerations, everyone has some sacrifices to make though it supposed to be a win-win plan.
Sista will not be able to be able in Thailand for a while, she's going to buy a house and house part of the family. Hus & I will house the other half of the family. The bros will have to be self-sufficient from now on. I might have to give up my stay-home-mum plans. I really hope this will work for everyone, I hope everyone will stop seeing themselves in this, their inconvenience, their pride, their space or privacy, etc.
If everyone moves, everything will start falling into place nicely.
I wanna say... "honour your parents" is a tough commandment.
1 comment:
I just hope to keep your stay-home-mum dream alive and kicking... We will wrok something out and God knows how much this meant to you. We will see how things turn out... and while God is working His miracles, we need to hold on to HOPE and FAITH.
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